Self-Compassion: Releasing Old Wounds

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December 5
Personal Testimony
Faith & Forgiveness
Luke 6:37
"Forgive, and you shall be forgiven." 

Self-Compassion: 
Releasing Old Wounds 

and 
Learning to Heal with Christ

Laying down years of self-hatred at His feet

Before I could move forward in this workbook, I needed to pray:

Prayer of Release

Lord, forgive me, and help me forgive myself for years of self-hatred. 

I lay it at your feet—the pain and the reasons behind it. 

I carried it so long I don’t know how to walk without it. 

For years I kept the door shut, afraid of the hurt inside. 

With your help, I finally opened it and faced the pain.

You have been patient; your love enduring. 

I don’t know why you ask me to share this, Lord—I don’t want to be this vulnerable. 

Yet I submit, because my thoughts about myself hinder my usefulness to you. 

I trust you to protect me.

I am weak, but you are strong. 

Be my refuge, my courage. 

Help me stay faithful on this journey. 

Continue breaking the chains and walls around my heart—

you’ve already been doing this, as my tears have prepared me for today.

Father, guide my mind, my prayers, my words, 

so all I do glorifies you. 

You have led me here, to forgiveness that releases me from heartache. 

All I can do is take it one step, one day at a time, following your lead.

In Jesus’ name, Amen.    

Reopening the Self-Love Workbook
After time away, I revisited the first 41 pages of the workbook. The opening section invites us to know ourselves—our values, gifts, and motivations for pursuing self‑love. These reminders become anchors when discouragement comes.
The workbook also offers simple practices: guided meditation, listing favorite joys, and writing affirmations. These small steps help us remember our worth and keep a positive mindset:
Guided Practices
Quiet practice
Sit quietly, breathe, and imagine a soothing color moving through your body.
(I tried it without the color and still found it calming.)

Favorites List
Make a quick list of small pleasures — a favorite sweet treat, drink, place, person, hobby, time of day, salty snack, book, movie, or show.
These are reminders of what brings you joy.

Affirmations
Write a few short affirmations where you’ll see them — in a notebook, on a mirror, or on your phone.
Examples:
• I am worthy of love and belonging.
• I am learning to love myself every day.
• Self‑love is a journey.
• My feelings and thoughts matter.

Reflection
Having released the weight of self‑hatred, I now turn to the practice of self‑compassion.
Forgiveness opened the door, and self‑compassion helps me walk through it.
Release is only the beginning—self‑compassion is the path that follows, teaching me to treat myself with the same gentleness God shows me.

Self-Compassion
Practices for a Kinder Inner Life
• Respond as you would to a friend

When disappointment or failure happens, ask how you would speak to a beloved friend — then offer yourself that same kindness.
• Curate your social feed
Notice which platforms leave you drained. If a site consistently makes you feel worse, consider stepping away.
• Write to your younger self
Pen a compassionate letter to your younger self about a painful moment. Let tenderness lead the words.
• Challenge the inner critic
When negative self‑talk arises, counter it with kinder, truer statements. Repetition builds new habits.
• Allow your feelings
Don’t suppress emotions. Give yourself permission to feel, and use simple practices — ten slow breaths or a short meditation — to steady your heart.
• Remember shared suffering
Suffering is part of being human; we are not alone in it. This truth softens shame and opens the way to compassion.


Faith and Healing

Without the Lord, I could not walk this path.

My salvation has been my anchor since childhood, even through seasons when I neglected prayer or let the opinions of others define me. God has remained faithful.

Scripture reminds me: “Cast all your cares on Him, for He cares for you.” (1 Peter 5:7)

And Oswald Chambers writes: “Do not look to others for vindication… Our Lord never explained anything.”

Scripture and the cross remind me that I am seen, forgiven, and held. Faith doesn't erase struggle, but it reshapes how I understand my worth and how I move forward.
His grace makes this journey possible.

Be Nice To Yourself - Starting Today.
To be continued...

Self-Compassion Help
As I continue this journey, I’ve found resources that encourage self‑awareness and gentleness:
Laura Silberstein‑Tirch – How to Be Nice to Yourself

Self-Awareness Tools - personality test websites such as 16Personalities.com and EnneagramTest.net
Kristin Neff, PhD - Self-Compassion.org
Nick Ortner - The Tapping Solution (EFT) with tools and meditations on TheTappingSolution.com

These tools are helpful, but the greatest help comes from the Lord, who teaches us true compassion.

Note: I wrote this during an earlier season of my walk, and I’m leaving it here because it is part of my story. Since then, God has deepened my understanding of what it means to care for the body and life He entrusted to me. I no longer use the word “self‑love” the way I once did; today I see it more clearly as stewardship—honoring God with His temple. Thank you for walking with me as I grow. 

Another Update: After April 8: After Surrender/"Death to Self": Self-help workbooks are unnecessary... the Holy Spirit immediately sets to work restoring health to your "inner-man"; you surrender your free-will, your "self", and your life to Christ... you lose your life for Christ's sake only to find your life hidden in Him the very next moment. The mysteries continue to unfold on this 365 day journey through the book: My Utmost for His Highest. 

That is why I ended the Self-Love Series; self can not fix self, but God can... He is currently at work healing and restoring health to my "inner-man"... and it goes so much deeper than that. 

Selah. 

With Grace and Gratitude,

~ Quil

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Scripture References

Luke 6:37 — Forgive, and you will be forgiven.
Psalm 34:18 — The Lord is close to the brokenhearted.
Psalm 147:3 — He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.
1 Peter 5:7 — Cast all your cares on Him, for He cares for you.
Isaiah 43:18–19 — Forget the former things; God is doing a new thing.
2 Corinthians 12:9 — God’s power is made perfect in weakness.
Psalm 51:10 — Create in me a clean heart, O God.
Romans 8:1 — No condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.
Galatians 2:20 — I no longer live, but Christ lives in me.
Ezekiel 36:26 — God gives a new heart and a new spirit.